What do you do if the one person you LOVE MOST in the world doesn’t ‘get’ or support your work?
They say, ‘opposites attract’, but let’s be honest, the opposing friction we like best is the result of GOOD chemistry.
So how do you deal with differing views on what’s super important to you: like your BIZ?
1. Validate yourself.
Acknowledge your own effort and DARING SPIRIT, your amazing commitment, your desire to SERVE and bring significant change and help to your sphere of influence. It’s a GOOD thing. It counts.
Your resilience is powerful. You’re getting sharper, clearer, and more effective every day. Yay you! for being both a DREAMER and a DOER. You are a rare breed.
Yay God! for making you exactly like you are, the only person who can bring your specific gifts to the world. Your PASSION for life is real. It matters!
2. Get Support.
There is NO need to do life alone, in any situation, especially one that is so tough. Find like-minded WOMEN who can walk the path with you.
Have one ahead of you to LEAD and assist. Have one behind you to extend your INSIGHT. Have ones on your right and left on which to lean, celebrate, and be ACCOUNTABLE and vulnerable.
Remember to pick them wisely. We’re not casting our pearls before swine here. Get a gauge for RESPECTFUL support and shared goals.
3. Communicate wisely.
Let’s dive into this a bit. He’s your man, not your enemy. Your DESIRE is to stay close and connected. Even through sharing differences, you can still be holding ‘US’ as your biggest priority.
And one more mind blowing idea for you- the goal is NOT 100% agreement. The goal IS 100% understanding.
You are two, separate individuals. Having different strengths makes you stronger TOGETHER.
Consider these points:
- If it’s important to me, that’s enough.
- His differences do NOT negate my values.
- Boundaries in marriage are very healthy and actually create MORE closeness.
This is just a starting place.
If you want to know more how to communicate using: assertiveness, emotional word pictures, relational focus, and low-pressure strategies, let’s chat.
God is for you, your gifts, and your MARRIAGE. There is a way to make it happen.