“2020 marks the highest spike in online learning.” Do you think that’s the headline we’ll read in a few years?
Yes, we have some extra time and togetherness on our hands right now. It has a huge impact on your everyday life. But, if you get caught up in the frenzy, you might re-waken past resentments. Or you could learn new relationship tools, and come out closer and stronger.
What you do determines your outcome.
Follow the learning trend. Get the marriage you wanted, when you said: I Do.
Apply these tips:
1. It’s NOT about you.
Of course, your feelings and needs matter. What I’m saying is, when your spouse blows up over business closings, the stock market, or the kid’s homeschool stuff everywhere, that’s NOT a slam directed towards you. He is just releasing his anxiety in your direction. (You might be doing the same thing.)
2. Their point counts.
You have a unique lens in which to see the world. So does your spouse. The things that upset them (hoarding TP), are just as valid as your own ideas. Give them space and affirm their concerns and worries. They will feel safer. This opens the door to even deeper and closer communication.
3. Set a boundary.
Social Distancing is now a part of our new normal. It’s the perfect visual for emotional distancing. I’m not talking about self-protecting with walls. But not every need your spouse shares is up to you to fix. Choose what you receive and what you give (emotionally) based on levels of trust and respect.
We can turn this situation around.
Genesis 50:20 highlights the story of Joseph and his brothers. He experienced many trials at their hands. They worried he would turn on them. Instead, He said, “what you meant for evil, God used for good.” We are looking for God’s goodness in the quarantine time.
Your relationship CAN come out closer and stronger.
You don’t have to do this in your own strength.
God’s love is your source.
Draw on Him for Limitless Intimacy.